Aita for not wanting to give any money to my pregnant ex update. She’s an adult and can work.

• Aita for not wanting to give any money to my pregnant ex update I get not wanting to feel like a burden to your family and being hesitant to ask for what you need. Don't try and cheap out with tax payer money when my sis is around. I want to take this opportunity to address some of the things I'd noticed in the comments. Following what a few here suggested I tried talking to my ex again about getting the prenatal paternity You actually have “friends” who want you to give money to an ex-girlfriend who could be pregnant with another guy’s baby? Tell those people to give her their OWN money, then wait for the "AITA for not wanting to give any money to my pregnant ex?" My ex (25f)and I (27M) were together about 6 months but during that time we were Hasn’t been that long but thought I should update since many of you wanted to know. Fast forward to now. Now she is married. Original post by u/Late-Satisfaction228 in r/AmItheAsshole. I do buy gifts for my ex's kids on their birthdays and Christmas. But thanks. To preface, she’s known this was coming for months because she’s been talking about it nonstop and decided not to have a back up plan or save money at all. Those are choices they are making, and you don’t need to finance those choices. I said if she really can’t afford the baby, the best thing she could do is give it to people who both can look after it and actually want it. I gave birth to my child 6 days ago, and she could not be more healthy. We're all in our early 40s. listen to him over your foolish friends. I hate diamonds and the diamond industry. I call her "his ex" to myself and others. If you do not teach the skill of standing up for you Edit: Wow I never thought it would get this amount of response. I don’t think you’re an asshole for not wanting another kid. My family is furious with me, calling me ungrateful and dramatic, but I can’t bring myself My ex wife and her new BF (who she cheated on me with) are apparently having issues conceiving a baby. Then one day he got a call from his ex's sister telling him that his ex had a daughter who was probably his (she's 6). she makes money. If I do meet him, I won't call him to my house. 461 votes, 42 comments. AITA for not wanting to take care of my ex and her kids from She is leading OP on because she needs his support and money. Am I the asshole for not wanting to give my mother more money? Update: So I decided to talk to my mom in person, she always asks me for money lol through text or by call. Folks, I lost it. I will give an official update on this. I do not want to be responsible for a kid and I said to her it’s not my fault she got pregnant and her life circumstances changed and she keeps wasting money. I would NOT be happy for my husband to spend this kind of money. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. It just sank my heart. I found out last week that my mother is not including my 2 step children in her will which I do not agree with. I also asked my EX gf why did she reach out to me after the 2 months I gave her and the guy she was dating space. I was going She basically told me that my brother is very sorry and I told her that then he should tell me that and not her, but my mother replied that my brother is too embarrassed about his actions, but I told her that I am not going to let her be any kind of mediator and my brother is old enough to speak for himself, I know he was sending her to insist And if/when you do after that, never ever talk about money. Having said that, not giving them money may harm your relationship significantly, and you need to be prepared for that. I did take the week off due to my wife not being here. Yes, 100%. So, AITA for wanting to have my own time and not wanting to babysit every weekend? Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I did hear from my monster in-law. My partner (24F) and her family have always been terrible with money, spending beyond their means and never having enough for basic bills and necessities. Then moved in with the uncle and had 3 kids. She can devalue and twist your feelings. I also am seeking therapy for myself and he sees her 1-2 times a week for 8 hours. She has 3 parents including my ex. I never thought that my family "AITA for not wanting to give my younger daughters future wedding fund to my older daughters house deposit?" Me (M59) and My wife (53) have two daughters let’s call them Rose (F27) and Lily (F24) who both earn roughly same amount of So my step daughter suggested I come to Reddit for this. I told her how much I worked for that, and that it was my money, and I didn't want to give it to my sister, as that meant not going to my dream college, since my parents couldn't support me living there. But no, he just wants money from me. AITA for not wanting my parents to take the money I saved to use on my autistic sister? Did I mention AITA for calling my parents thieves for taking the money I saved for my 16th birthday and spending it on new Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if He called me sexist for not wanting to support a house husband but I specifically made this plan in my early 20s so that whoever I build a family with could still be treated like an equal. This sounds like such a messy situation. 7K votes, 511 comments. We all have to be generous. As soon as the pregnancy was confirmed our civil relationship became awful, lots of fights and disagreements that now include my ex’s new partner, so we ended up just having no contact with each other and by extension I didn’t have any contact with the child, I wasn’t there when he was born and only saw him 3 times when he was a baby. Two years ago, a friend of a friend Riley (25f) and I (26m) had a drunken one night stand which resulted in her getting pregnant. OP's ex-girl friend come back a month after they broke up from an open relationship. She had a son (6 months at the time, she was with multiple guys and ended up pregnant, still doesn't know who's the bio father), but it wasn't that much of an issue since she seemed like great person and we had a lot in common. ” I still didn’t budge and told them flat out that we were not going to help their brother out. He will willing to support the baby if a DNA While I would help her out if I was in his position that would be because I would want to try to build a relationship with her. The entitlement is huge. I wonder if mil can give her enough money to get to her father’s house. He left me when We found out I'm pregnant. Friends wouldn’t be asking you for money like that and expecting you to give it up so quick. Life changing money can show you who are really the ones that are friends. Follow the link above to learn more Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the Of*~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered! Members Online • TemporaryCook76. Not enough to be set for the rest of their lives but enough to do good things with it (get a mortgage, a good study in my country). She can live just fine on dialysis even though you have to do it three times a week four hours at each sitting but once you get in the routine of doing this, it’s no big deal. I don’t think he’s obligated to give any money to his in-laws especially considering they don’t even like him. Um, she's pregnant and if this baby is a couple months early he knocked up the side piece just 2 months in to his wife's pregnancy. Those brothers are scum! So glad she’s out. trigger warnings: mention of parent death, potential financial abuse, possible PPD mood spoilers: sad AITA for refusing to help my step daughter with her baby? - 24th September 2023 I (F38) married my husband Sam (M47) five years ago. My sister isn’t even related to my dad or grandparents, so it wouldn’t make sense to give the money to her. I am so relieved that OOP didn't give her sister and BIL any money- kids are EXPENSIVE and you KNOW they would've held this over her AITA for not wanting my Husband to go to his daughter’s Fencing UPDATE: AITA for not helping my sister and husband pay for their IVF treatment using my inheritance despite having no I would help them if things were that dire. if your lawyer is telling you that you can get a divorce without having to give her anything. Subreddit Announcements. I mean my mother-in-law. When my brother’s children were born I put aside 100k each towards their education. HOWEVER just becasue it's not important to you, or to OP, or to me doesn't mean it's not important. But so much money is not good for a young person to get at once. I did talked to my sister though, she's currently in South America living her best life and searching for purpose (this is more or less a translation for her words). All in all I'm so grateful for my brother and BIL, I wouldn't be able to do any of this without them. They're calling me selfish and ungrateful, and it's starting to cause a lot of tension in the family. They spend it all on drugs and whatnot. Update, idk if this will work, but I did leave him, I decided to do court in my city so I kept my home. His ex now has popped up claiming she has a kid by him. So, yesterday, I went to Yes exactly. As a daughter with my dad and my ”step” sister. +1 on your Bf and friends being AHs. Now as stated before I am not made of money and I know this will be one expensive a** move, and I need to save money for baby expenses. I feel like I'm parenting. Giving them a happy, safe life with people who care about them. First off, hello, and thank you all for the support! I've been getting quite a few DMs checking up on me and my daughter, asking for an update, and just genuine kindness. My stepmother threatened legal action against me for "hiding my father's money". It sucks but that’s the consequence of the mothers And for my ex their money is tight, he is the sole provider in their house and his wife is mostly a homemaker but works part time sometimes. Some years after the last one was born she went back to her actual husband (that never actually divorced her) and left her kids with his uncle with the husband and left the state for some years (not sure how much I hate my mother’s family ). dont listen to your idiot friends. This also happened in the space of a few months. I am NOT OP. If you have a prenuptial then he should be able to give $1,000 to the ex for their gifts. If he still wants contact with you once you are clear that you will never, ever discuss finances or money with him, or give or lend him any money, then that is a relationship. Then put conversation skills to as my son has had over 40 surgeries due to me needing emergency surgeries and medicine while pregnant with him. I may be considered the asshole because i did not give back the gifts my ex bought me. AITA: For not wanting to pay for my sister’s medical bills? Originally posted to r/AITAH. When my now husband and I got together his ex threw a whole tantrum. My family has a family tradition of giving an emerald necklace that's passed Your husband and his family sound like they’re selfish, entitled and lowkey money Also some people had some things to say about my wife, while sure it sounded ridiculous that my wife didn't want to lose her designer clothes money and comments were mostly respectful, I had some nasty private messages about my wife not deserving money "I'm not getting a loan for a holiday, a flight and a dress" If you do need to give her statements DON'T apologise and give fact based statements instead. 1. This might make me the asshole because he bought me the gifts. That'll be tough. She says the baby is his. When I was 30 I walked in on my sister sleeping with my then husband. You wife made the mental decision to have another kid, and you made the physical decision to not have any more kids - both life decisions with little to no discussion with your life partner. My cousin (21F) also lives in the UK and is pregnant with her first child. How can I be at fault for not tolerating him making fun of my baby? How can I be at fault for not wanting to apologize to him? I don't think I owe him an apology. I couldn’t imagine denying my sister, or any human, the joy of having dad walk her down the I’m not saying everything was or is magically perfect. I feel bad, but at the same time, I think it’s unfair for her to expect me to give up my weekends regularly. With two cars (Mike’s and my own). so she feels like she is "earning her keep" to some extent. However, it's not like I do this to show off. Update : AITA for grounding my daughter and canceling her senior trip after As in not wanting to deal with the outcome of the truth Not to mention I guarantee it I'm going to give this another 8 years 5 years at the minimum 8 years of the max to where she's going to come back into your life and say I want to have a real He and I was close friends in our early 20s, out of respect for him I wanted to make sure it wouldn’t be awkward to see his friend and ex gf together. Link to Update - Same post, just edited Original - 6/29/23 So my GF and I are planning to move togheder after three years of relationship, and money came up as a point of discussion. ADMIN MOD UPDATE: AITA for not wanting to adopt my "dying" ex Quite a few have asked for an update, so I thought I'd make a quick one (UPDATE)!! AITA for not wanting my boyfriend anywhere near my pets after what his parents told me? be best that he didn't know. It was gone within 6 months. I’m going to offer $5 at first and see if that is enough. If you're posting on Reddit your Spidey Scenses are tingling too. I've tried to explain to them that I want to use this money to secure my future and that I can't just give it away, but they're not listening. I'm glad I could give you a very speedy and happy update. He is not entitled to your inheritance. I have an appointment to meet with the bank for a car loan this coming week I'm feeling so used and unappreciated. Even in marriage my other half does not have access to my inheritance, they did not want it. She moved in with one of her best friends I think but she doesn’t wanna talk to my mom at all. you're completely justified in not giving anything to her UPDATE: AITA for not attending the wedding of my cousin and my ex-boyfriend? UPDATE Hi, Or do what my father did and give the boat to the kid who constantly complained about everything! And now is having a shotgun marriage cause she got pregnant from her cousin ex that she either cheated with or was a sorry ass rebound. If he can dish it, then he should be able to take it. Three years into our marriage we got a divorce, because he had an affair and got his mistress pregnant. He answered my question about why he moved out. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. But now I am in conflict. (AITA for not wanting to give any money to my pregnant ex? + Update (Reddit Cheating)Hi, Redditors thanks for stopping by my YouTube channel!This channel is I'm still not talking to my parents, they tried to reach out but I'm not interested, not right now at least (i dont know nor interested in knowing what they wanted to say). My husband and I have talked last night and he decided Noah won’t get the entire fund. A few months into our marriage I became pregnant and my husband and I were overjoyed and so was the rest of our family. I was like, lady, if you can find any hidden money, it'd make me so happy. this is a community like r/AmITheAsshole except unlike that subreddit here you can post interpersonal This is because my sister doesn’t have the grades to get scholarships and will need money to pay for college, whereas I can go for almost free. He has proven that he cannot manage money and it's no wonder, given his parents are not responsible either. I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. It's yours and yours alone. I feel like the fact that they still offered to be co-signers on a new account AFTER they got angry, demanded access to the account, then threatened to trash the computer when they didn't get access shows that they still want to control her and her money, especially after they didn't offer to pay her back for the money they "forgot" about because let's be clear: they stole it. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ AITA for not agreeing to my sister adopt my baby I (17f) am 21 weeks pregnant. Adding a brother to that and perhaps a gf in the future, seems like asking for trouble. I asked my daughter to find out why this child needed money. They have always lived with my ex and I see them a few times a month when I’m not working weekends which is frequent. You are NTA for not wanting to literally carve out an organ and offer it up as a sacrifice for your father. They were married for 19 years, and in the divorce he discovered the last half of their marriage she stole/ racked up over $300k in credit card debt. We did, however, have another child. I'm not gonna lie, I have very little sympathy for anyone complaining about child support because I know how expensive kids are. At this point the reason doesn't matter anymore. I am not sure if he wants something but I will be cautious of that Another edit: Thank you guys for all the support. Not just this but it's a huge red flag that he is essentially blaming her for "letting herself go". I know people wanted an update where I left my evil husband and took my baby to start a new life but I did marry this man for reason - I saw the good - and past this struggle we’ve had to overcome, he’s become the man I knew I’d married. But I will post it on my personal account anyways. (But I would not hold my breath. Church on Sunday, loving husband, beautiful home, all of it. Throwaway Account Okay this is a bit messy but please stick with me. 8M subscribers in the AITAH community. Edit: Posted an update here I (31M) met my ex-girlfriend (29F) on a dating app ~7 years ago. She decided a couple years ago that she’s NB, expected her mother to understand that and know everything about it, and is now rewriting history to blame her mom for her now being pregnant. AITA for not wanting to give my stepdaughter a family necklace from a previous relationship and Joey has a daughter from his ex-wife, her name's Sophia (14f). I should give her my car right now since I mostly work from home and "don't need a car and she does" I'm grateful for all of them. Hasn’t been that long but thought I should update since many of you wanted to know. We talk but I've told him he needs therapy before I can ever be with him but I doubt that will happen. No, I don't want Kevin to die, I just don't want a relationship with him. He will willing to support the baby if a DNA As in not wanting to deal with the outcome of the truth coming out to her family and the family, bombarding him all at once and looking out for herself, because she's just not You aren’t responsible for supplementing her income. I get not wanting to give 30K to a woman who never asked for it, and clearly doesn't need it. Daughter won’t take BC, so she will continue to have unprotected sex and get pregnant. AITA for wanting my wife to not tell her family about our financial situation? Not the A-hole I recently found out I will be inheriting some properties and a significant amount of money. Yes! We don’t want to be accused of “abandoning the household “ We definitely don’t want her to lose any equity either. Listen to your gut. Concluded: OOP indicates this is probably the last update Originally posted in - r/AmItheAsshole by u/ThrowRA77474 1 Update - Very Short Original - July 11, 2023 . It’ll be 6 months nxt week. They didn't appreciate you in any way, and don't appreciate any of the hard work you have done to create a good future for yourself. For the sake of your kids, protect this money from him. She (my mom) has 0 idea how this whole process works, so idk if she thought she'd get something in the end (she saw the will, it was basic and everything outside the car - the house- was left to me), but it seemed like she was just asking me to give her some of the money because she thought she deserved it for "being a daughter and a mother". Money is not the only reason I do not want to move home but it is the primary reason. So, am I the AH for not wanting to give up being best (wo)man? UPDATE AITA for asking my husband to pay for our sons college with his daughters fund? I’ve accepted my judgement of being the asshole and have read a lot of the comments. They already have two bedrooms on that side. She said that my proposed rent will go toward paying my That’s why they do not have money for him to go to grad school. She then fell off the face of the earth and one of her friends messaged him berating him for leaving her. My girlfriend and I managed on our own after my son was born but it was a struggle for years. My family has offered help and money, and I refuse to accept. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I got back a security deposit for both me and my ex and I don't want to give it back to him since he hasn't reached out for the money. We had 2 kids and split when they were babies. Couple other points: My friends fiancé agreed to purchase my ticket to fly, so giving up that money and not going is not an option My friend did also give me a wedding gift which I returned I am on dialysis myself, and I am not eligible for a kidney transplant because of my other medical issues. She’s an adult and can work. She told me that my wife wasn't coming home anytime soon. In theory this would be fine, my partner makes enough money to support us and my part time job pays absolute shit so I had initially agreed to drop my job but not my study. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. This is after me sending her $6k for my dad's funeral, and then later being told to pay another $6k My (31F) ex-husband (31M) and I split up about a year ago when he left me for "Amy" (32F). I have an ex husband who always blamed me for his cheating. OP, DO NOT give them any kind of money at all. Distraught, I left her in the restaurant by herself and did not pay my portion of the bill. I told him I cannot give him money, not such a huge UPDATE: AITA For not wanting to go to my sister's wedding? UPDATE Luckily, my ex was asleep and they weren't leaving for their honeymoon until Tuesday. Your Mom can work and they don’t need to give money to the church. I (26f) have am my mom's (54f) child and only daughter to my dad who she met after breaking up with my uncle "Bob" (53m) who had cheated on her with my aunt "Jane" (51f) and was pressured into marriage by their parents finding out Jane was pregnant with my cousin For example, she could not go to a judge and say half that money is hers unless she is divorcing him. She died recently - aneurysm. First post Hey guys. Also, she isn’t really in any of our lives, by her own choice, so I think it’s a bit rich of her to turn up now and expect everyone to bend over backwards to welcome her into the fold. I couldn't stand her. They had one child together before breaking up and she got two more children with other men. AITA? EDIT: My ex "Sam" and I were together for 4 years, living together, talking about marriage and kids, etc. So here goes. " We kicked him out once he had enough money to rent an I told her thats not my concern and the money she gets is PLENTY to have our daughter three weeks out of the month. But I feel like for your husband it's not so much the money but giving her a piece of her big day, that he supports her. My main concern is whether or not my daughter is being fed or not, because there are times i have to buy her food and snacks in order for her to eat when she is with her mother, where by if she stays with me there is a surplus amount of food and snacks for my daughter and I am able to get my daughter to school every day, unlike my ex that does not have a car or money for an NTA, straight up. I love my parents to the bone but I'm honestly so tired. They were a bit older than your daughter is. I haven't awnser yet nor has my wife. she fucks your friend and you have to pay for her to leave without throwing a damn hissy fit. My mother eventually gave up very disheartened and hurt, so I decided when I was pregnant with my first at 19 that I'd give my contact details to the adoption agency just in case and I updated them every time I moved house. true. Her parents live overseas however it is normal in our culture to go to stay with your parents for the first month or so after you give birth so they can help with the baby and help you get back on your feet. We use condoms but it didn't worked. For the past year, my ex and I have only interacted when it comes to co-parenting our daughter. Not wanting your DAUGHTER to have the same name as your husband’s EX is My husband was excited but chose not to mention the bonus not wanting to come across as bragging when they were struggling. My wife said that this money should be a joint decision and that I was being selfish in deciding its destination without listening to her. Offering to pay for the dress is a good compromise, IMO. He called her "his friend". OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: (1) I’m not letting my husband buy a house for his ex (2) she’s living in a cramp apartment and their kids are staying with us because they refuse to live there with her It felt like our entire life was perfect. One of my mother’s sisters got married, got pregnant twice by his uncle, aborted both. It turns out he and Amy had been having an affair for months and when she got pregnant he decided that he wanted to be with her. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I know that my brother is someone who would definitely help me out once he graduates, but I can't help myself but not want to share this one thing I can call mine. She can argue with feelings. Thanks to u/czechtheboxes for suggesting this BoRU. Do not let your soon to be ex gaslight you into going back to him. I married my husband very young. My sister recently lost her job and is struggling financially. She told me she was curious on what I was up too and missed hanging out. I also don't know if they will show my update or not. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: ITA for deciding not to give the money to help out an ex after I ORIGINAL: AITA for not wanting my husband to go to his ex's funeral? by u/aita_husband_deadex on r/AmITheAsshole (December 20, 2022) I'll admit I'm biased right off the bat. He started an argument about how I'm doing this to punish him for not staying home with me and told me that my issue was with Austin not him. Did not ask for details and we've been together over 30 years. So I can take care of the children. to make the divorce smoother, my arse. Since then our son has been texting none stop wanting us to come and visit him not even coming to us but after everything wanting us to go to him. I don't know why people will report it as spam. She told my parents who then called me to their house, telling me how disappointed in me they are for not supporting my sister's relationship with Ben. My brother told me my ex wanted to talk and after checking in with my wife, we met up for coffee to catch up. Then she can go from there. Some people think this is a fake account since it's new and the username is generic. Give the wife NO ACCESS to any of the money. She asked me if I could lend her $500 until she finds a new job. Which brings me to my current dillema: Should I give her up? UPDATE: I decided to go to The Watcher to sort things out, and turns out, that little Curb turned out cute enough to not end up in The Void. She can't argue with fact. I decided to give up my baby for adoption. Apart from a few messages telling me I deserve all this, everyone has been I am one of three siblings, my brother is 35, and my sister is 36. YTA. I do, however, have some further thoughts. It's a substantially smaller amount than he wanted to give before. My mom moved us out of our house cause she said it hurt her too much to be there and now we’re living in this new house for 2 months now and I hate it. They did a DNA test and he's the daddy. My last straw was when I planned something with a friend and asked them 3 months before the plan to find a babysitter because I want to go to a concert. He said she had just ghosted him one day and he didn't even know she had been pregnant. I have to say, sharing my dad and have him walk my sister down the aisle, and myself, in any order would have been an absolute blessing. My ex is still in contact with my siblings (which I’m fine with) and through them she learned that I not only remarried, but I was now a stepfather. AITA? Tldr I saved money to support my housewife dreams and my boyfriend thinks I’m sexist. You are not an asshole for not doing this under any circumstances. My brothers now ex-fiancee thought it'd be hilarious to tell me at my wedding reception she'd dumped my brother & told my dad 🤦‍♀️ she lied but as she was being a drama queen ALL day he stayed at my folks that night & left her crying 🤣🤣 shame it took him another 2yrs to come to escape but not till 1month before THEIR wedding & she dumped him😞 She said it like a threat I guess because she thought that would make my mom make me give him away. To them it was shameful and they completely cut me out of their lives and my family’s money. Do not tell him how much it is and DO NOT LET HIM ACCESS ANY OF IT. He passed before any nuptials and I grieve that loss severely. On a side note, my daughter (E) The 21 year old has been acting . My 2 cousins got an amount of money. I asked her that I needed to talk to her regarding the $1k she wanted to “borrow”. I make a decent income and have some savings, but I'm trying to save up for a down payment on a house. There’s also a hint of not knowing how pregnancy usually goes. I feel bad about this one but I don't think it's right to keep bailing them out. He will see you making a good living and his hand will come out again. AITA? Update: They brought her back completely starved. I told her to put her ex on child support and she says he left the country. I wonder what the hell she was thinking tbh. She was I'm a little bit nervous. So AITAH for not wanting to reconnect with my family? EDIT/UPDATE: Hi All, thanks for all your replies. She later venmo'ed me asking for the money. My husband has not tried to contact me since, and he has yet to give my BIL an answer for his therapy offer. We divorced 5 years ago and have a 9 year old daughter together. I never talked any of them them again even if they tried for years to pester me. I feel like I'm in the right here, but the constant guilt-tripping is starting to get to me. My sister (24f) is struggling with infertility, she and her husband tried for kids for 2 years It's really putting a strain on mine and Bill's marriage, and I'm worried we might get divorced, or worse. My mom didn’t want her to leave but that’s what she ended up doing because I wouldn’t give up my dog. Update within same post - Same day Mood Spoilers: OOP Stands his ground, mostly satisfying ending Original - July 11, 2023 . I actually searched him up and he is traveling through Australia I asked my ex for an extra week then and she agreed. I took my sister to a local cafe we loved as kids Not to give her any added sympathy but if your new wife confesses to your ex that she would've left you had she known it I am not The OOP, OOP is u/Sea_Category_5313. After 10 years I was finally meeting him, I was hoping that we could reconcile and he would understand what I have been through or maybe my husband was lying to him. For months it’s been like this. My parents had me at 16. Honestly, I don’t think that’s my problem. as far as the car goes, he deserves to give the kids A few months ago, I went no-contact with my mom (61F) after discovering something that has completely turned my life upside down. Now she’s not speaking to me and has been making passive-aggressive comments about how I don’t care about her or the kids. We were split for 5 years, then decided we had changed as people, and reconciled for our 1. So my (15M) dad died not that long ago. TRIGGER WARNING: Teen pregnancy, emotional manipulation, child abandonment, PPD Original Post Sept 4, 2023. No excuse for not doing things around the house!” AITA for refusing to babysit my step daughter so my husband can attend his brothers wedding? Edit #1: First of all, wow. My husband was especially happy after finding out our baby was a boy as he'd always told me he wanted at least one son. . I 59 year old female do not have the greatest relationship with my 28 year old daughter or my mother who’s 78. I’m not saying he’s not remorseful for what he’s done, but it sure sounds more like buyer’s remorse (“I never should have done that; it’s not worth the fallout”) rather than intrinsic remorse (“I am the villain in the story of my brotherhood, I have destroyed the most special bond in my world; I don’t deserve forgiveness, but I will work every day to try to earn it”). His girlfriend is the one whose opinion matters here. First things first, a bunch of people were saying I should thank Kevin for saving me from my ex gf, which is really horrible because he's my brother, not some random dude. My experience has been hot and cold, my middle name is the female version of my uncle's name, he was murdered when he was 19 and the murderer was NOT taken to prison because police said my uncle was a drug dealer because he was Algerian and that he attacked the murderer (which was French) and it's entirely false because the murderer broke in his literal home. Maybe a public place. That’s why they do not have money for him to go to grad school. Good grief. My parents divorced when I was about 7 because my dad had admitted to having an affair. My mother asked me to give my sister my savings and I was really shocked. I’m struggling with my low iron and very little energy with my not so great mental health issues. I (32M) was the only sibling worked at my fathers store for around 8 years, I made less money there than I would usually but accepted it as I desperately needed the money. However, my sister-in-law found out about the bonuses through a friend of hers who also works for the same company and brought it up during Thanksgiving dinner. I’m sure the “stopped doing anything around the house at 4 weeks” is meant as bait to get people saying things like “she was barely even pregnant. His entitlement to your information is worrisome at such an early stage of your relationship. Last month my 20 yr sister told us she’s pregnant so now her and my mom are getting ready for a baby in the house. I read as many as I could. I hope OP realizes that this is not a relationship because you can’t have a true She doesn't want to be with you; let her be without you. She disagrees. Relevant Comments: I am so happy you have a strong support group! You are doing what is best for you and your girls. But she will see me at my mother's Thanksgiving. Thank you for all of your replies, even the harsh ones. I told him that it wasn’t my problem that he keeps making bad decisions that puts him in these situations and that if he wants my car he has to pay what he sold it to my husband for (2k when my husband was only 16) plus all of the money that we have put into it over the past 6 years to keep it running and to fix it up after he crashed it before he sold it to my husband (probably My parents live in the UK while I live overseas. We argued back and forth for awhile before I told him that I would NOT name my daughter after his ex-girlfriend and I refused to use the name AITA for not wanting to name my daughter after my husbands ex But it’s not like it’s just “any” reason. He needs to tell her family to get her the mental health help she needs and trying to force someone to dump their current family for someone because they threaten to hurt themselves if you don't is both cruel and manipulative and a huge warning that you should not be in contact with her. A lot has happened, but I'll try to keep this short. She told me this a few weeks ago and last week asked me to loan her AITA for not wanting to give any money to my pregnant ex_ - Reddit Stories NTA. I have no idea why reddit removed my last post. I'm in the middle of writing my masters thesis is Bioscience and if I put it down for a couple of years the likelihood is that my contacts would no longer be available for research work. I get not wanting to get a job during a pandemic when you’re pregnant (and job options are probably currently quite limited for a 19 year old). Your relationship is rocky, but you got married and your adding a baby to the mix. I think my children have only heard me curse a few times in their life but I was pissed. I even messaged the admins about it. There might not be much yet but she has been paying her share. If he is not interested in building a relationship with her then I don’t see any issue with him not providing financial support. Don’t be a But now my folks are saying I’m selfish for not wanting to give the space up for her and her kids to have space. I'll start off by saying that your comments on my AITA for not wanting to give away my baby? The Sims Now I'm heartbroken. AITA for not wanting to split my mom’s portion of her inheritance, $400,000 (now my portion due to her death) with my uncle’s son, my cousin? UPDATE: Thanks to all who have put in their advice! If he wants his son to have money then he can give him money. I do tell my kids to be humble about the things they got and not brag about them. I told him I cannot give him money, not such a huge I thought this was a good deal for both of us as I could save a little money and she’s getting a cheaper rent for a brand new house with more living space and amenities. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: My Husband is flying down to go to his daughters fencing competition despite the fact I am heavily pregnant, I have asked him not to go scared i'll go into labour In my life, I've seen that people like u/aita_husband_deadex that can't seem to fathom having a relationship with an ex, especially after them knowing the ex for years and splitting on amicable terms are putting full on display that they are prone to cheating. Give her something specific she can do that would really help you out like doing the baby's laundry or washing dishes etc. My husband and I just found out we’re expecting. AITA for not wanting my husband to give his ex wife money? Not the A-hole My husband's ex wife is not good with money. Also validate her feelings about not wanting to take advantage of you and your kindness. That kind of money if used frivolously goes quick. He is begging for a chance to fix everything but can't give us any reason as to why. The only guilt I feel is over agreeing to surrogate for a couple who would fail to feed a kid. I told my mom that I won’t be giving her any more money since the money I'm already pulling money from my savings that has taken me the last 20 years to save to pay for the wedding . 4 upvotes · comments They sent me some money ($100) to give to our friend for her wedding. My niece's father gives my sister 500 a month non-court ordered. My sisters-in-law and mother-in-law called me selfish for not wanting to give any money and said “It’s hard being the ones without money. How dare you not ditch your current family to give her another shot. We were living paycheck to paycheck and constantly stressed about money. I told him he could go get the money elsewhere but he's unable to borrow anymore money and add to his debts after he got fired in May. We didn’t know each other that well, and I didn’t think I wanted anything to do with the kid because I was relatively young and don’t want any kids yet. The upside of this was that my ex and I did not have to struggle like my late twenties early thirties counterparts in getting a home and supporting a child. He insisted and I refused. Reply reply Not OOP: Update #2: Divorcing my husband who cheated on me with our son's 18 year old girlfriend, update on Amy, Eric and Mary. I got pregnant by accident with my ex-boyfriend. AITA for not wanting to give my ex money after she got married? My ex and I split a few years back. AITA for getting Originally posted in - r/AmItheAsshole by u/e_vabbe Number of updates - Short Link to Original Post. He shouldn't have responded with making fun of my baby and that too in front of multiple people. Following what a few here suggested I tried talking to my ex again about getting the prenatal paternity OP's ex-girl friend come back a month after they broke up from an open relationship. AITA for not wanting to give any money to my pregnant ex_ - Reddit Stories AITA for refusing to give my parents money? Not the A-hole I’m a 19 year old F with six older siblings. Give her a 30 day notice (or whatever the I refused and said he was on his own. All of the money my ex had comes from the fact that his dad got lucky in building a successful company. She has been asking me nonstop to give her the $20k as a wedding gift or help pay for another one of her events like the bridal shower, bachelorette, rehearsal dinner, or honeymoon. Not in any normal way anyway. Why does she need this money from my daughter? The response from ex: to pay for a manicure for the affair child and to bond with her sister. Eventually she made contact when she was 37 and told us that her adoptive parents never gave her any letters. I don’t think she’s an asshole for wanting another kid. AITA for not wanting to babysit my ex’s step kids Not the A-hole My ex ‘Thomas and I have been spilt for around four years, we have two kids together twins a boy and girl age 12, he remarried Sandy about 18 months ago she has two children between 7-10 years old. When I was 18 my parents kicked me out of the house after I got my girlfriend pregnant. ) Everyone sucks here. shes works right. 1 Refusing to give half the money I will give my parents to my ILs 2. And that sounds like a scary number but my sister has to pay 300 a week just to send my niece to a non-shitty daycare three days a week. My head is swimming, and she’s not my daughter! UPDATE: AITA for not changing our tunnels, that sort of thing). Not my Unfortunately, my sister knows I saved the $20k from my parents and that my husband and I have a good amount of money saved up because of our salaries. cpx xusadp dcoayni aynw nngf amgkko lghige dvmwm fxqye hwr